I Know I Want a Divorce. Now What? 4 Steps to Get Started

Many members tell us: “I know I want to move forward… I just don’t know where or when to start.”

If that’s where you are—clear on your decision, wanting to put your kids first, and hoping to avoid unnecessary conflict—the early steps matter more than most people realize. This stage isn’t about rushing into action. It’s about getting grounded, organized, and intentional so the decisions that follow are more thoughtful—and less reactive.

Below, we’ll walk through four key areas to focus on—and you’ll find corresponding resources linked at the end to help you take each step.

Here’s how to start thinking about it

1. Start with Your Own Clarity

Before any joint conversations, start with yourself. Clarity now helps you stay steady later—especially when emotions or logistics become more complex.

To get started:

• Write down your top 3 priorities (for...