Your Parenting Plan: Preparing for Summer, Practically and Emotionally

Summer is supposed to feel easier. No school schedules, more flexibility, longer days.

But if you’re navigating divorce or separation, especially in the early stages, summer can feel anything but simple.

There’s more unstructured time, more decisions to make, and often more interaction with your ex. For many, it’s the first real test of what coparenting (or parallel parenting) will actually look like outside the structure of the school year.

The good news: with a bit of intention, this can be a season you feel more prepared for—not less. Here’s where to focus.

1. Start With What You Can Control

One of the most grounding mindset shifts is separating what’s in your control from what isn’t.

Your ex’s behavior, tone, or last-minute changes? Often out of your control. Your responses, boundaries, and communication? Fully within it.

Summer tends to surface this quickly—plans change, expectations differ, and emotions can run higher with more time together.

Before reacting, pause and ask: Is this something I can control or influence—or is this something I need to let go of? That small shift alone can prevent a lot of unnecessary escalation.

2. Structure Reduces Conflict (Even in Summer)

It’s tempting to keep things loose...